Drifting Apart in Your Marriage? Tips to Rekindle Intimacy
Drifting Apart in Your Marriage? Tips to Rekindle Intimacy 
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Many couples reach a point in their marriage where they feel like they’ve drifted apart. It’s not uncommon to feel unsure about how it happened or what steps to take to repair the relationship. If this resonates with you, don’t worry—there is hope. Rebuilding intimacy can happen faster than you think, and it starts with some simple yet effective steps.
Here are three powerful tips to help you bridge the gap and rekindle intimacy in your marriage.
1. Plan Fun Together
Life’s challenges and responsibilities often push fun to the back burner, but prioritizing fun activities with your spouse can work wonders for your relationship. Laughter has the power to reduce anxiety and create a lighter atmosphere, making it easier to enjoy each other’s company. Start with easy, lighthearted moments together before diving into deeper conversations or issues.
2. Praise the Little Things
Acknowledging and appreciating the small gestures your spouse makes can have a profound impact. Everyone feels closer and more valued when their efforts are noticed, no matter how small. Whether it’s how they handle daily chores or a kind word they said, vocalizing your appreciation builds warmth and closeness.
3. Ask Personal Questions
Deep conversations are the foundation of emotional intimacy. Ask your partner thoughtful, personal questions that show your genuine interest in their experiences, dreams, and feelings. For example, you can explore:
- Childhood memories or impactful moments in their life.
- Their goals and aspirations for the future.
- Their thoughts on intimacy and connection.
These questions open the door to meaningful dialogue, helping you rediscover each other on a deeper level.
A Tool to Measure Your Progress
As you implement these tips, you may wonder how your relationship compares to healthy standards of intimacy. A helpful resource to consider is the "Rate Your Intimacy Quiz," which provides a snapshot of where you stand and actionable steps to enhance your connection.
A Message of Hope
Rebuilding intimacy is about more than just physical closeness; it’s about creating a bond that is emotional, spiritual, and social. Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Taking these steps can reignite the spark in your marriage and create a deeper, more fulfilling relationship.
Take the first step today—you might be surprised at how quickly the connection returns.
This blog is designed to inspire and guide couples looking to strengthen their relationship. The steps shared here can transform "drifting apart" into growing closer together.












































![What if the reason sex feels off…
isn’t because something’s wrong with you—
but because of what you were 'unknowingly' taught to believe?
Messages like:
❌ “Sex is just for men”
❌ “Desire is dirty”
❌ “Your body isn’t yours anymore”
❌ Silence = shame
These hidden beliefs shape how we show up in marriage, whether we realize it or not.
? In Episode 1 of Permission to Enjoy Intimacy, we’re uncovering the roots of your view of sex and why it still matters today.
? Watch now on YouTube: [link in bio]
? Request to be on the guide Waitlist: [comment WAITLIST]
You were never meant to carry shame into the bedroom.
Let’s replace the lies with truth that brings freedom.
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![Never did I ever think I’d become a Christian Sex Educator.
Honestly? I was the least likely person.
But after walking through sexual shame, painful intimacy, a divorce, and a remarriage with physical and emotional struggles—I had to start asking hard questions.
? What does God really say about sex?
? Why didn’t the church teach us more than just what not to do?
? Is healing even possible?
My story is real, raw, and filled with hope—and I just shared it in a new video. If you’ve ever felt confused, ashamed, or stuck when it comes to sex in marriage... you’re not alone.
✨ There’s a new story waiting for you. One of wholeness, freedom, and joy.
? Watch now [link in comments]
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![“The church didn’t prepare me for a healthy sex life.”
If you’ve felt this—you're not alone. But blame won’t bring healing.
? It keeps you stuck.
? You can reclaim your voice, your joy, and God’s design for intimacy in marriage.
? Watch my story + how you can start healing too:
[see video link below]
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![? New Video: “Sex Predictable? 5 Surprising Ways to Make Married Sex Fun Again”
Does your sex life feel stuck on repeat? You love each other, but let’s be real, intimacy in marriage can get... routine.
That doesn’t mean something’s wrong. It just means it’s time to reconnect with fresh intention. ❤️
In this video, I’m sharing 5 surprising (and totally do-able) ways to bring back romance, playfulness, and deep connection without pressure, blame, or wild expectations.
✨ It’s not about needing something new because your partner isn’t enough
? It’s about speaking up, being intentional, and rediscovering the joy in each other.
? Watch now & let your marriage feel exciting again: [link below]
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![? “Why doesn’t she want sex anymore?”
If you’ve ever asked yourself that question or felt the weight of it in your relationship, you’re not alone.
This video isn’t about blame.
It’s about what’s really going on when desire fades…
? Why pressure can shut her down
? Why repeated asking actually kills attraction
? What your needs are really saying
? And how to talk about sex without shutting each other down
You’re not broken. Your marriage isn’t doomed.
But intimacy can’t thrive where there’s confusion and disconnection.
? Watch now: Why She Doesn’t Want Sex Anymore
? [Link below]
? Tag someone who needs this or save it for later.
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![? Newly Married? This Might Surprise You About Sex…
You love each other. You said “I do.” And now you’re discovering that…
✨He’s always ready for sex.
✨You need a little more time to get there.
Sound familiar? ?
In our newest video, we're talking about something that surprises a lot of newlyweds:
Different sex drives. Different timing. Different needs.
? We cover: ❤️ Why desire often shows up differently for husbands and wives
? What to do when you're not “in the mood” at the same time
?️ An empowering tool to help you grow arousal together, not apart
? Watch now and grab “The Arousal Pathway” in the video description!
? [See link]
You're not broken. You're just learning—and that’s exactly where God meets you. ?
You love each other. You said, “I do.” And now you’re discovering that…iageHelp #RealTalk](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/499960890_1188438926627918_1853430168560919605_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=106&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=MdOBbuO5X-8Q7kNvwEc62_i&_nc_oc=AdnFDjtdi3I1sFlbxiT6Y4hGgSFdpeqH9vfQbsIv8IyPl7KH4H-yI_ib54KLI0cUbfU&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=aVjKB8j2Mmj5DSQ1HweHSw&oh=00_AffBaVR92K71xu3Xabc4uYvQRM3RB_1xj0e1YX3IMVO7Cw&oe=69096939)







![? New Video: Why Does Sex Feel Like So Much Work? ??
As we age, physical changes, mismatched desire, and lack of communication can make intimacy feel more like work than connection. ? But it doesn’t have to be that way!
In my latest video, I’m breaking down:
✨ Why sex can feel harder as we get older
? How to talk to your partner about intimacy struggles
? Ways to reignite passion and emotional connection
? Watch now: [See Link Below]
And if you’re ready for deeper support, relationship coaching can help you rebuild trust, communication, and desire. DM me or check out my coaching services to get started. ?
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