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Sexual Wholeness: Gods Design For Intimacy in Marriage
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Great sexual intimacy requires that we abandon both distorted media and suppressed church views in order to celebrate the fun, pleasure, and oneness God intended for marriage. Discover how to embrace freedom in sexual expression and gain relationship confidence, without the taboo and awkwardness of talking about sex... especially in Christian circles.
Intimacy Made Simple: with Mary Whitman Ortiz
A podcast about when being deeply known and loved meets the physicality of sex—so you can enjoy deeper intimacy and have a thriving marriage.
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Sex and intimacy can be challenging topics for Christians to address, yet they are sacred gifts designed by God for marriage. In this insightful e-book, discover how to embrace God’s G.I.F.T. framework for sexual intimacy and see it as a meaningful blessing for husbands and wives.
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![What if the reason sex feels off…
isn’t because something’s wrong with you—
but because of what you were 'unknowingly' taught to believe?
Messages like:
❌ “Sex is just for men”
❌ “Desire is dirty”
❌ “Your body isn’t yours anymore”
❌ Silence = shame
These hidden beliefs shape how we show up in marriage, whether we realize it or not.
? In Episode 1 of Permission to Enjoy Intimacy, we’re uncovering the roots of your view of sex and why it still matters today.
? Watch now on YouTube: [link in bio]
? Request to be on the guide Waitlist: [comment WAITLIST]
You were never meant to carry shame into the bedroom.
Let’s replace the lies with truth that brings freedom.
#PermissionToEnjoy #ChristianWife #BiblicalIntimacy #FaithAndSex #HealingFromShame #ChristianMarriage](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/515759988_1244404701031340_3597364365629616346_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=102&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=0A1dZwibVIkQ7kNvwH0KwFw&_nc_oc=Adl7dB3FRb8enYJLQwe2my3qm3R2e6hroFvmk2aWLy5JKc3Gc2wUAkw5Xgztv71BKmQ&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=Djz4heHI0Tkdov9p7RXBFQ&oh=00_Affx3olKvttnOEERYGXYzIlcjILaW2wFmfOLY8jtwSXhqg&oe=6906FC1D)
![Never did I ever think I’d become a Christian Sex Educator.
Honestly? I was the least likely person.
But after walking through sexual shame, painful intimacy, a divorce, and a remarriage with physical and emotional struggles—I had to start asking hard questions.
? What does God really say about sex?
? Why didn’t the church teach us more than just what not to do?
? Is healing even possible?
My story is real, raw, and filled with hope—and I just shared it in a new video. If you’ve ever felt confused, ashamed, or stuck when it comes to sex in marriage... you’re not alone.
✨ There’s a new story waiting for you. One of wholeness, freedom, and joy.
? Watch now [link in comments]
#ChristianSexEducator #SexualHealing #FaithAndSex #ShameFreeSex #ChristianMarriageHelp #SexAndFaith #LimitlessIntimacy #HealingJourney](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/515289677_1218913090247168_6345377098569430210_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=110&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=I-XbiZEzTlcQ7kNvwGaIvfZ&_nc_oc=AdlkkPWxKaTQ79VYcZimrGSHkUAQSGhsPl9CNsxjF-FNmv9QU0qBh_HDp-izdY4aRLo&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=Djz4heHI0Tkdov9p7RXBFQ&oh=00_Aff7qXU1xkSoYtzdt_GjLH5_AyIXtzvUET87ZcYn7HoPig&oe=6906E469)
![“The church didn’t prepare me for a healthy sex life.”
If you’ve felt this—you're not alone. But blame won’t bring healing.
? It keeps you stuck.
? You can reclaim your voice, your joy, and God’s design for intimacy in marriage.
? Watch my story + how you can start healing too:
[see video link below]
#ChristianMarriage #SexAndTheChurch #FaithAndIntimacy #SexualHealing #MarriageGodsWay](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/506795182_1204233621715115_8452170121630902916_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=111&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=JfmU5CSw8poQ7kNvwGKqJU9&_nc_oc=Admo0ZsbNtnOGgPrrUg3oxBkfDE5MCEFRXzQPZrDKpaQNwzXtzvLrUz-6_65s_G5DkU&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=Djz4heHI0Tkdov9p7RXBFQ&oh=00_AfcVll3ELnkPi17Td3i8Efm6xnMjEZUD8DzmYMOObI-D-Q&oe=6906E6BA)
![? New Video: “Sex Predictable? 5 Surprising Ways to Make Married Sex Fun Again”
Does your sex life feel stuck on repeat? You love each other, but let’s be real, intimacy in marriage can get... routine.
That doesn’t mean something’s wrong. It just means it’s time to reconnect with fresh intention. ❤️
In this video, I’m sharing 5 surprising (and totally do-able) ways to bring back romance, playfulness, and deep connection without pressure, blame, or wild expectations.
✨ It’s not about needing something new because your partner isn’t enough
? It’s about speaking up, being intentional, and rediscovering the joy in each other.
? Watch now & let your marriage feel exciting again: [link below]
#MarriageIntimacy #FaithAndSex #ChristianMarriage #RealTalk #MarriedLife #SexInMarriage #EmotionalConnection #RomanticMarriage #MarriageHelp #SexualWholeness](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/504156175_1197931129012031_8894408107210844492_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=109&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=LHMVWpAxzksQ7kNvwGZygts&_nc_oc=AdkRGOU7wrJDhpGIkaIB-UncitvJswQLjkNADY9s3eok0TCN63AEwEE0KU36SntVlyw&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=Djz4heHI0Tkdov9p7RXBFQ&oh=00_AfdWvoh-r6N3wAffrZOv0bPdRx3FwHfWR-ySOFUTXugsXQ&oe=6906D99E)
![? “Why doesn’t she want sex anymore?”
If you’ve ever asked yourself that question or felt the weight of it in your relationship, you’re not alone.
This video isn’t about blame.
It’s about what’s really going on when desire fades…
? Why pressure can shut her down
? Why repeated asking actually kills attraction
? What your needs are really saying
? And how to talk about sex without shutting each other down
You’re not broken. Your marriage isn’t doomed.
But intimacy can’t thrive where there’s confusion and disconnection.
? Watch now: Why She Doesn’t Want Sex Anymore
? [Link below]
? Tag someone who needs this or save it for later.
#MarriageHelp #ChristianMarriage #SexAndMarriage #EmotionalIntimacy #FaithAndSexuality #MarriageAdvice #HealthyDesire #SexualWholeness #IntimacyMatters](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/501297747_1193159629489181_1951041367705785040_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=108&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=spvXz2AzN7MQ7kNvwEcxYwU&_nc_oc=AdnMFRhacjn0X3DfV-EtN1vq0g__CqFtAThGX9FBcx6GiwoYWnWZQ3mur8vEh9iR8s8&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=Djz4heHI0Tkdov9p7RXBFQ&oh=00_AfdBJNu4cCEdz8K1DzjsyYdQyATMAUNZrwOdwOMF6XgHKw&oe=6906DD3C)
![? Newly Married? This Might Surprise You About Sex…
You love each other. You said “I do.” And now you’re discovering that…
✨He’s always ready for sex.
✨You need a little more time to get there.
Sound familiar? ?
In our newest video, we're talking about something that surprises a lot of newlyweds:
Different sex drives. Different timing. Different needs.
? We cover: ❤️ Why desire often shows up differently for husbands and wives
? What to do when you're not “in the mood” at the same time
?️ An empowering tool to help you grow arousal together, not apart
? Watch now and grab “The Arousal Pathway” in the video description!
? [See link]
You're not broken. You're just learning—and that’s exactly where God meets you. ?
You love each other. You said, “I do.” And now you’re discovering that…iageHelp #RealTalk](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/499960890_1188438926627918_1853430168560919605_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=106&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=FdV1XFtR3YsQ7kNvwExdvUX&_nc_oc=Adnb2y0GjQjQs9A9VCtIb2XiRKwxygskvuj-P1w1ZspPR_vdybmYLo46ntVdBiJejZg&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=Djz4heHI0Tkdov9p7RXBFQ&oh=00_AfeiJskLv4jjmdwGpuQ9PgpOzy_MykMRy8CMivJ9T_xbCQ&oe=6906FE79)
![? New Video: Why Does Sex Feel Like So Much Work? ??
As we age, physical changes, mismatched desire, and lack of communication can make intimacy feel more like work than connection. ? But it doesn’t have to be that way!
In my latest video, I’m breaking down:
✨ Why sex can feel harder as we get older
? How to talk to your partner about intimacy struggles
? Ways to reignite passion and emotional connection
? Watch now: [See Link Below]
And if you’re ready for deeper support, relationship coaching can help you rebuild trust, communication, and desire. DM me or check out my coaching services to get started. ?
#IntimacyMatters #MarriageAdvice #ReigniteTheSpark #RelationshipCoaching #CommunicationIsKey #MarriageHelp #SexAndAging #CouplesGoals](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/493316345_1167191215419356_1764354481944620320_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=105&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=UhtsPQOzZAAQ7kNvwEEZlKK&_nc_oc=AdnPqyMWx92D-YQdan9s026H7jIDYZM2lZM4zBvmNSJvX_wMuuSiPsDVb8R5c-v0WpI&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=Djz4heHI0Tkdov9p7RXBFQ&oh=00_AffKZEDEdkFaK7VkiSaEu0brEEVJOGgV5KZqXQxGsZp4dw&oe=6906EEC1)
