About Mary Whitman Ortiz | Certified Life Coach & Christian Intimacy Expert

Meet Mary, The Love Master

Hi friend! I’m Mary Whitman Ortiz. I’m committed to helping you value yourself and create healthy emotional connections. Though you may struggle with disconnect, distance, pain, or even shame from others, God is always there for you… caring, understanding, and full of love to heal your heart. I know, because He healed mine.
“When you see yourself the way God does, it changes how you see the world. His love heals your heart and invites you to open the door to love. I know, because He healed mine.”  

—Mary Whitman Ortiz

My Story:

The Wrestle with Sexual Intimacy and Dysfunction

I wrestled with sexual intimacy and dysfunction issues for over three decades. It started in childhood with inappropriate touching from neighborhood boys that I never spoke of to anyone. In dating, I was drawn to attention from boys, but it made me feel more like an object than a treasured soul.

This perspective continued as I entered into marriage. Though we were both Christians, we didn’t have a solid foundation for mutual love. There were missing pieces in our relationship. Unknowingly, we did not share the same goals for intimacy.

Within months of our wedding, I sensed I was not what he wanted sexually. Our sexual intimacy, though physically successful, was not a mutual expression of love and commitment. It was a physiological act with a biological result. I began to hate who I had to be when I was with him sexually.

Unfortunately, as a Christian wife, my struggle was complicated by messages I perceived from the church. I was ‘supposed’ to submit to my husband, put him first, see my body as not my own, and please all of his requests.

The Breaking Point

My whole being was compromised.

To me, it felt that the inner Mary, heart full of ideas, thoughts, dreams, and vulnerability, wasn’t included or wanted in our intimacy. It was only my body that was requested. Variations of this went on for years.

Finally, change came. Through a series of events, I learned that he was addicted to pornography.

Though the revelation was shocking and embarrassing, understanding the why of his behavior began to help me. With a raw and wounded heart, I sought the Lord daily. My dependence on Him deepened to a new place.

Rebuilding With God

God began to rebuild my identity in Him.

Through my divorce (after 26 years), I lost my family, home, friends, church, and pets. I had to start over, to completely reestablish who I was. I went back to school and got my master’s degree. I dated and tried to figure out love.

Now, I am happily remarried in a healthy, passionate, godly, and fun relationship. I’ve turned a painful past into a lifestyle filled with His abundant promises to help others find healing and mutual love.

I have lived through your struggle and found healing, hope, and happiness. What stands out about me as a Relationship Coach and Intimacy Advocate is my desire to connect with your heart’s pain, yet bring you powerful results. With godly discernment, personality expertise, and communication insight, I encourage your intimacy healing, so you can value yourself and create healthy emotional connections.

My Miracle Love Story: Fairytales Do Come True

My love story is a true miracle, a testament to God’s timing and faithfulness. I first met Tim during a season when I was learning to rebuild my life and trust in God’s plans for my future. From the moment we met, Tim’s thoughtful and adventurous spirit began to rewrite what love looked like for me. He’s a natural athlete, an avid jet skier, and the life of the party, with a quick wit, a love for pranks, and a heart for his family. As a devoted dad, grandfather, and successful business owner, he leads with integrity and faith, grounding our relationship in shared values.

Our birthdays are just one day apart, and for our first celebration together, we exchanged copies of Keep Your Love On by Danny Silk. Studying and practicing the principles in that book laid the foundation for the healthy, mutual love we now share. Early on, Tim showed me what it meant to truly value myself—he even paid for my manicures as a gesture to help me see my own worth.

I first realized I loved him during worship at church, standing side by side with our arms around each other. The first time I told him? It was on the dance floor at a 70s-themed party where he rocked a massive afro and goldfish platform shoes.

Tim didn’t know at the time that I would become known as “The Love Master” and he would lovingly embrace his role as my “arm candy.” Together, we’ve faced life’s challenges—broken bones, surgeries, family transitions, and aging parents—always prioritizing one another. Whether we’re jet skiing, enjoying football games, or strolling through art galleries, our joy and connection remain unwavering.
Through it all, God has richly blessed our love. Tim is not just my partner; he’s my greatest gift and the answered prayer I didn’t even know I could hope for.

“I can show you how to release sexual hurt from your past,

value yourself, and create relationships full of love and freedom - because I’ve done it for myself.”

“I can show you how to release sexual hurt from your past, value yourself, and create relationships full of love and freedom - because I’ve done it for myself.”

—Mary Whitman Ortiz

Certifications

and Training

Credentials

B.S. and M.A. in Education, The University of Alabama
Certified Relationship Coach, International Coaching Federation
Marriage Mentor, Adventures in Marriage
Premarital and Martial Trainer, Prepare Enrich® Facilitator Training
Christian Sex Educator, Institute for Sexual Wholeness
Certified Inner Healing Prayer Ministry Trainer

Clinical Research & Experience

Clinical research and studies in Bibliotherapy, Multiple Intelligences, and Creative Problem Solving
Leadership Development
Personality Inventory Assessment
Team Building and Teaching
Women’s Empowerment Advocacy
20+ years experience in Relationship Coaching
Leads workshops, retreats, and church-based work with thousands of individuals to foster relational freedom and intimacy