What’s Good About Sex? It's So Much More Than Pleasure!
What’s Good About Sex? It's So Much More Than Pleasure!
Sexual intimacy is often reduced to just a physical act, a moment of pleasure. While this is certainly part of the blessing, there is so much more to it, and many couples are missing out on the deeper benefits. These benefits go beyond mere physical sensations and touch on spiritual, emotional, and mental aspects that can enhance every part of a marriage and life as a whole.
The Full Blessing of Sexual Intimacy
In a thriving marriage, sexual intimacy brings a powerful joy that extends far beyond the bedroom. It touches every area of life, creating a deeper connection between partners. This connection enhances productivity, fosters emotional growth, and brings a sense of unity that makes everything feel more possible. There’s a profound spiritual, emotional, and physical element to intimacy that strengthens relationships in ways we don’t always realize.
For example, the concept of being fruitful and multiplying doesn’t just refer to having children. It speaks to the idea of an overflow of goodness that happens when a marriage is strong and sexual intimacy is healthy. When couples nurture their relationship, they find that they have more energy and resources to give to others, improving their work, family life, and even their community.
Security, Trust, and Longevity
When couples are practicing sexual wholeness, they experience a sense of security that strengthens the bond between them. Trust builds, and transparency in the relationship flourishes. These elements contribute to the longevity of the marriage, giving it a foundation of stability and growth. Healthy sexual intimacy isn’t just about enjoyment in the moment; it’s about nurturing a relationship that will stand the test of time.
Moreover, this intimacy forms the bedrock of unity between partners. It creates a fierce, unbreakable bond that enables couples to face tough situations together. When the relationship is built on this strong foundation, nothing can tear them apart. The closeness that develops through sexual intimacy allows couples to feel connected, even when external challenges arise.
Sexual Wholeness Intelligence
In order to experience all the benefits that sexual intimacy can offer, it’s essential for couples to develop what we call "sexual wholeness intelligence." This concept goes beyond merely understanding the physical act of sex; it involves exploring how intimacy is meant to be a spiritual, mental, and emotional experience that nourishes the relationship as a whole.
Couples need to educate themselves on the deeper aspects of sexual intimacy. By being open to learning, exploring, and nurturing the connection, they can create a fuller, richer experience. When couples understand the wholeness of their relationship—both sexually and emotionally—they create an environment where intimacy can flourish.
Starting the Conversation
The first step toward experiencing the fullness of sexual intimacy is to start the dialogue. Open communication about sex in the context of the marriage is crucial. Many couples struggle because they never address the subject or are unsure how to discuss their needs and desires. By starting the conversation, partners can better understand each other and work together to build a deeper connection.
It’s also important to recognize how past experiences, misunderstandings, or even unresolved issues might be affecting your intimacy. Understanding any brokenness in the relationship allows couples to heal and move forward with intention.
Making It a Priority
When you recognize the profound benefits of sexual intimacy, it becomes easier to prioritize it. A healthy, thriving marriage positively impacts all aspects of life, from personal growth to professional success. When the bond between partners is strong, it creates a ripple effect that touches their family, friends, and community.
A thriving marriage changes everything. It transforms the way you engage with the world, bringing a sense of peace, joy, and confidence that radiates from the inside out. So, if you want to experience the true blessings of sexual intimacy, focus on nurturing your marriage with understanding, communication, and trust. You’ll not only enhance your relationship, but you’ll also transform your entire life.
Remember, when your marriage thrives, everything in life thrives!











































![What if the reason sex feels off…
isn’t because something’s wrong with you—
but because of what you were 'unknowingly' taught to believe?
Messages like:
❌ “Sex is just for men”
❌ “Desire is dirty”
❌ “Your body isn’t yours anymore”
❌ Silence = shame
These hidden beliefs shape how we show up in marriage, whether we realize it or not.
? In Episode 1 of Permission to Enjoy Intimacy, we’re uncovering the roots of your view of sex and why it still matters today.
? Watch now on YouTube: [link in bio]
? Request to be on the guide Waitlist: [comment WAITLIST]
You were never meant to carry shame into the bedroom.
Let’s replace the lies with truth that brings freedom.
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![Never did I ever think I’d become a Christian Sex Educator.
Honestly? I was the least likely person.
But after walking through sexual shame, painful intimacy, a divorce, and a remarriage with physical and emotional struggles—I had to start asking hard questions.
? What does God really say about sex?
? Why didn’t the church teach us more than just what not to do?
? Is healing even possible?
My story is real, raw, and filled with hope—and I just shared it in a new video. If you’ve ever felt confused, ashamed, or stuck when it comes to sex in marriage... you’re not alone.
✨ There’s a new story waiting for you. One of wholeness, freedom, and joy.
? Watch now [link in comments]
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![“The church didn’t prepare me for a healthy sex life.”
If you’ve felt this—you're not alone. But blame won’t bring healing.
? It keeps you stuck.
? You can reclaim your voice, your joy, and God’s design for intimacy in marriage.
? Watch my story + how you can start healing too:
[see video link below]
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![? New Video: “Sex Predictable? 5 Surprising Ways to Make Married Sex Fun Again”
Does your sex life feel stuck on repeat? You love each other, but let’s be real, intimacy in marriage can get... routine.
That doesn’t mean something’s wrong. It just means it’s time to reconnect with fresh intention. ❤️
In this video, I’m sharing 5 surprising (and totally do-able) ways to bring back romance, playfulness, and deep connection without pressure, blame, or wild expectations.
✨ It’s not about needing something new because your partner isn’t enough
? It’s about speaking up, being intentional, and rediscovering the joy in each other.
? Watch now & let your marriage feel exciting again: [link below]
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![? “Why doesn’t she want sex anymore?”
If you’ve ever asked yourself that question or felt the weight of it in your relationship, you’re not alone.
This video isn’t about blame.
It’s about what’s really going on when desire fades…
? Why pressure can shut her down
? Why repeated asking actually kills attraction
? What your needs are really saying
? And how to talk about sex without shutting each other down
You’re not broken. Your marriage isn’t doomed.
But intimacy can’t thrive where there’s confusion and disconnection.
? Watch now: Why She Doesn’t Want Sex Anymore
? [Link below]
? Tag someone who needs this or save it for later.
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![? Newly Married? This Might Surprise You About Sex…
You love each other. You said “I do.” And now you’re discovering that…
✨He’s always ready for sex.
✨You need a little more time to get there.
Sound familiar? ?
In our newest video, we're talking about something that surprises a lot of newlyweds:
Different sex drives. Different timing. Different needs.
? We cover: ❤️ Why desire often shows up differently for husbands and wives
? What to do when you're not “in the mood” at the same time
?️ An empowering tool to help you grow arousal together, not apart
? Watch now and grab “The Arousal Pathway” in the video description!
? [See link]
You're not broken. You're just learning—and that’s exactly where God meets you. ?
You love each other. You said, “I do.” And now you’re discovering that…iageHelp #RealTalk](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/499960890_1188438926627918_1853430168560919605_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=106&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=FdV1XFtR3YsQ7kNvwExdvUX&_nc_oc=Adnb2y0GjQjQs9A9VCtIb2XiRKwxygskvuj-P1w1ZspPR_vdybmYLo46ntVdBiJejZg&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=Djz4heHI0Tkdov9p7RXBFQ&oh=00_AfeiJskLv4jjmdwGpuQ9PgpOzy_MykMRy8CMivJ9T_xbCQ&oe=6906FE79)







![? New Video: Why Does Sex Feel Like So Much Work? ??
As we age, physical changes, mismatched desire, and lack of communication can make intimacy feel more like work than connection. ? But it doesn’t have to be that way!
In my latest video, I’m breaking down:
✨ Why sex can feel harder as we get older
? How to talk to your partner about intimacy struggles
? Ways to reignite passion and emotional connection
? Watch now: [See Link Below]
And if you’re ready for deeper support, relationship coaching can help you rebuild trust, communication, and desire. DM me or check out my coaching services to get started. ?
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