Relationship Coaching to Help You Overcome Roadblocks to Intimacy.
Mary Whitman Ortiz:
Certified Relationship Coach,
Author, And Christian Sex Educator
Certified Relationship Coach
Christian Sex Educator
3K+ Clients Served
Relationship Coaching:
Discover God's Design for Intimacy
Transform Your Marriage with a Fulfilling, Faith-Based Approach to Love, Sex, and Connection.
Ready to rediscover closeness, joy, and intimacy in your marriage? Many Christian couples struggle to talk about sex and intimacy, often due to mixed messages from the church or lingering shame. Mary Whitman Ortiz offers a safe space to overcome these roadblocks, helping you learn healthy communication, resolve conflicts, and understand God’s beautiful design for intimacy. Build the connection you’ve always wanted with a fulfilling approach rooted in faith and love.
Find True Intimacy in Marriage:
Couples Course
Break Down Barriers and Reconnect With Your Spouse
If your marriage feels like it’s going through the motions, it’s time to re-establish the intimacy and joy that make love flourish. This couples’ course helps you deepen your bond—strengthening your relationship with guidance on communication, passion, and God-centered intimacy—all while rekindling that fire in your relationship. Learn to overcome roadblocks, rediscover the closeness you crave, and return to feeling loved, understood, and cherished. Embrace God’s beautiful design for a marriage filled with lasting intimacy and joy.
Sexual Wholeness Workshop:
Helping People Heal From Sexual Brokenness
Join Mary Whitman Ortiz for a live two-day workshop designed to empower ministry leaders and counselors with the tools to help couples overcome sexual brokenness and rekindle intimacy. Learn faith-based coaching methods that bring couples closer to God and each other, creating a foundation for lasting, meaningful change.
MEET MARY:
Advocate for God-Centered Intimacy and Marriage
Mary Whitman Ortiz is a dedicated Christian relationship coach who helps couples overcome barriers to intimacy and cultivate fulfilling marriages. Her warm, faith-based coaching approach creates a safe space for clients to explore sensitive issues, reconnect with their spouse, and build a strong foundation of intimacy. Mary is happily married to her husband, Tim Ortiz, and is passionate about helping couples embrace love, connection, and God’s purpose for their relationships.
REKINDLE THE FIRE
Explore Mary’s collection of resources that tackle tough topics and bring clarity to God’s design for intimacy. Get expert advice and biblical insights through her books, blog, podcast, and more—tailored to help Christian couples navigate the complexities of intimacy and rekindle the fire in their marriage with freedom and joy!
![What if the reason sex feels off…
isn’t because something’s wrong with you—
but because of what you were 'unknowingly' taught to believe?
Messages like:
❌ “Sex is just for men”
❌ “Desire is dirty”
❌ “Your body isn’t yours anymore”
❌ Silence = shame
These hidden beliefs shape how we show up in marriage, whether we realize it or not.
? In Episode 1 of Permission to Enjoy Intimacy, we’re uncovering the roots of your view of sex and why it still matters today.
? Watch now on YouTube: [link in bio]
? Request to be on the guide Waitlist: [comment WAITLIST]
You were never meant to carry shame into the bedroom.
Let’s replace the lies with truth that brings freedom.
#PermissionToEnjoy #ChristianWife #BiblicalIntimacy #FaithAndSex #HealingFromShame #ChristianMarriage](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/515759988_1244404701031340_3597364365629616346_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=102&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=0A1dZwibVIkQ7kNvwGMRk8q&_nc_oc=AdknFZj00O3v6jWUTpnbU-2_pJr7-04vLOJ37damX7knExZGrphcWfpqJ5Y1BtbkvPk&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=tORvFuvQ9bWwmd8FMZD6Dw&oh=00_AfeZG0zv60pGyW8FgLzrI9KEA3MvblyQ2dtNiZDnLQwLhw&oe=6905AA9D)
![Never did I ever think I’d become a Christian Sex Educator.
Honestly? I was the least likely person.
But after walking through sexual shame, painful intimacy, a divorce, and a remarriage with physical and emotional struggles—I had to start asking hard questions.
? What does God really say about sex?
? Why didn’t the church teach us more than just what not to do?
? Is healing even possible?
My story is real, raw, and filled with hope—and I just shared it in a new video. If you’ve ever felt confused, ashamed, or stuck when it comes to sex in marriage... you’re not alone.
✨ There’s a new story waiting for you. One of wholeness, freedom, and joy.
? Watch now [link in comments]
#ChristianSexEducator #SexualHealing #FaithAndSex #ShameFreeSex #ChristianMarriageHelp #SexAndFaith #LimitlessIntimacy #HealingJourney](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/515289677_1218913090247168_6345377098569430210_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=110&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=I-XbiZEzTlcQ7kNvwGDmA5T&_nc_oc=AdkbtVG3MNaFaOKDC1OpI3QnXVOohkIh3jeLGmc7q8BgFC7cRMWYKFcmk29pcTxdi_Q&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=tORvFuvQ9bWwmd8FMZD6Dw&oh=00_Afdtu9uZSOlbs9f9fuiR2P7Gnql93p8FQwCUgR564MxByw&oe=690592E9)
![“The church didn’t prepare me for a healthy sex life.”
If you’ve felt this—you're not alone. But blame won’t bring healing.
? It keeps you stuck.
? You can reclaim your voice, your joy, and God’s design for intimacy in marriage.
? Watch my story + how you can start healing too:
[see video link below]
#ChristianMarriage #SexAndTheChurch #FaithAndIntimacy #SexualHealing #MarriageGodsWay](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/506795182_1204233621715115_8452170121630902916_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=111&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=JfmU5CSw8poQ7kNvwGYPvnE&_nc_oc=AdnYCYHQHK9fYaSNsFSrQEin_ZVc5Hcy5Cv5cFV33eT10kzxuXvJV50nc9y7eHuAEE4&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=tORvFuvQ9bWwmd8FMZD6Dw&oh=00_Afc7f7LLehV1FbH3IiL6eifdXyqnUXbRWe5pbhgOfpNyvQ&oe=6905953A)
![? New Video: “Sex Predictable? 5 Surprising Ways to Make Married Sex Fun Again”
Does your sex life feel stuck on repeat? You love each other, but let’s be real, intimacy in marriage can get... routine.
That doesn’t mean something’s wrong. It just means it’s time to reconnect with fresh intention. ❤️
In this video, I’m sharing 5 surprising (and totally do-able) ways to bring back romance, playfulness, and deep connection without pressure, blame, or wild expectations.
✨ It’s not about needing something new because your partner isn’t enough
? It’s about speaking up, being intentional, and rediscovering the joy in each other.
? Watch now & let your marriage feel exciting again: [link below]
#MarriageIntimacy #FaithAndSex #ChristianMarriage #RealTalk #MarriedLife #SexInMarriage #EmotionalConnection #RomanticMarriage #MarriageHelp #SexualWholeness](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/504156175_1197931129012031_8894408107210844492_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=109&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=JjUcyZlmKzAQ7kNvwHMpREY&_nc_oc=AdnXiwc2gUkmyyqWsbuOqfOkE7L9HgsyOkAUE-NqOm4rO8VWgYQeRXNwTZcyd3MhPVE&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=tORvFuvQ9bWwmd8FMZD6Dw&oh=00_AffS-vew9YDMC9mge86No5PUeY5g8nLTUA5giBbTwzcj-Q&oe=6905C05E)
![? “Why doesn’t she want sex anymore?”
If you’ve ever asked yourself that question or felt the weight of it in your relationship, you’re not alone.
This video isn’t about blame.
It’s about what’s really going on when desire fades…
? Why pressure can shut her down
? Why repeated asking actually kills attraction
? What your needs are really saying
? And how to talk about sex without shutting each other down
You’re not broken. Your marriage isn’t doomed.
But intimacy can’t thrive where there’s confusion and disconnection.
? Watch now: Why She Doesn’t Want Sex Anymore
? [Link below]
? Tag someone who needs this or save it for later.
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![? Newly Married? This Might Surprise You About Sex…
You love each other. You said “I do.” And now you’re discovering that…
✨He’s always ready for sex.
✨You need a little more time to get there.
Sound familiar? ?
In our newest video, we're talking about something that surprises a lot of newlyweds:
Different sex drives. Different timing. Different needs.
? We cover: ❤️ Why desire often shows up differently for husbands and wives
? What to do when you're not “in the mood” at the same time
?️ An empowering tool to help you grow arousal together, not apart
? Watch now and grab “The Arousal Pathway” in the video description!
? [See link]
You're not broken. You're just learning—and that’s exactly where God meets you. ?
You love each other. You said, “I do.” And now you’re discovering that…iageHelp #RealTalk](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/499960890_1188438926627918_1853430168560919605_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=106&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=FdV1XFtR3YsQ7kNvwGhtGiz&_nc_oc=Adm0gWSaOD9BQfjbesrDN9zhHhfKoaniy_9GwZXgymIIokccwrq-DkGEX5K9zQ9jnKs&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=tORvFuvQ9bWwmd8FMZD6Dw&oh=00_AffV8GB0F8_vC65bNuGRJW4aX3hZcW9YSC5m3lmY8TxICw&oe=6905ACF9)
![? New Video: Why Does Sex Feel Like So Much Work? ??
As we age, physical changes, mismatched desire, and lack of communication can make intimacy feel more like work than connection. ? But it doesn’t have to be that way!
In my latest video, I’m breaking down:
✨ Why sex can feel harder as we get older
? How to talk to your partner about intimacy struggles
? Ways to reignite passion and emotional connection
? Watch now: [See Link Below]
And if you’re ready for deeper support, relationship coaching can help you rebuild trust, communication, and desire. DM me or check out my coaching services to get started. ?
#IntimacyMatters #MarriageAdvice #ReigniteTheSpark #RelationshipCoaching #CommunicationIsKey #MarriageHelp #SexAndAging #CouplesGoals](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t39.30808-6/493316345_1167191215419356_1764354481944620320_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=105&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiRkVFRC5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=1ZzDYyq-i2oQ7kNvwEP_Swg&_nc_oc=AdmPbrvPJFy9kIoVWRvTIyns74TgpoFYQoBKVbZr8gOaCYha9caM2qf3gueRXL4h54g&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=tORvFuvQ9bWwmd8FMZD6Dw&oh=00_AfdJ_fIw41Zcxuvb66SIiu2KpzzQJaoXC7-cLfhISv8WYw&oe=69059D41)
